434 - Too Busy to Exercise? Then You’re Too Busy to Succeed

June 22, 2018

I know it’s a cliché, but exercising regularly really is one of the keys to achieving your goals in life.

If you want to start a side hustle that you will build into a new, fulfilling direction to get you out of your rut, you’ll need to fix yourself https://www.excellence-expected.com/edge emotionally, mentally, and physically.

I’m a tall guy at 6’2” but a few years ago I only weighed about 154 pounds. I dove into exercise. I lifted weights, cardio, and high-intensity training. I followed a regimen solidly for three years and got up to 200 pounds.

While I was still exercising I had the idea for Excellence Expected https://www.excellence-expected.com/, my own personal brand. Two weeks after launch, it led to the idea for my current main business, Podcast Websites.

When I was training, clear of mind, ideas flowed. I was focused.

For the last couple of years, as we’ve been building Podcast Websites https://podcastwebsites.com/, I’ve slacked off my exercise. I was transitioning out of Hacksaw and I also had a lot of personal shit going on. Life got in the way, and I dropped the ball.

My mood gradually got worse. I became a bit of a pain in the arse. We were building a new business, but I didn’t have the clarity I once did.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 434 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

Why Exercise Renews Your Mind

Over the last few months, I got back into exercise. I’m lifting weights and doing high-intensity cardio every day. I can think more clearly. My focus is back. My devotion is renewed.

If you’re not doing anything to keep your body fit and healthy then, honestly, you’re not preparing yourself to succeed.

Sure, there are some people who are in terrible shape who are successful, but I know for a fact they succeeded despite their bad health, not because of it.

I was recently talking with my good mate Wayne Smallman (@Octane on Twitter https://twitter.com/octane). At 43 he’s working hard on his business while keeping his body very trim. He looks great. He’s as buff and fit as you could want to be.

I asked him for his key to staying active, staying focused, and staying in great physical shape. He said most people will go to the gym with a goal in mind. They want to build a certain amount of muscle or lose a certain amount of weight. They see exercise as a means to an end. Once they achieve that goal they drop off.

That’s exactly what I did. When I got to 200 pounds I had achieved what I wanted to, and I dropped off. He went on to say it’s not about achieving some single goal. It’s about deciding this is a commitment you’re going to make every day.

It’s about training yourself to value fitness. That will lead to long-term health.

When he said that, my mindset changed. I started exercising again, this time with a different goal: To build commitment (not muscle) every single day.

Some days I lift weights in my garage and afterwards, if I’m feeling particularly tired, I’ll be tempted to not bother with my usual couple-mile run.

I don’t give in to that temptation anymore. It’s not about whether I’m tired or not. It’s about the commitment.

Are You Really Committed To Success?

If you’re too busy to exercise, you are too busy to succeed.

Find the time and build in a program.

If Richard Branson can do it, trust me, so can you. Richard, incidentally, answers the question of how he remains so focused and productive with two words: “Work out.” https://www.inc.com/julian-hayes-ii/richard-bransons-secret-to-being-more-productive-i.html 

I’m not going to tell you what type of exercise you should choose. That’s not my domain. But here is my general formula for increasing your mental stamina and focus:

Somewhere in your day carve out 20 minutes of good quality exercise.

It can be a run, weightlifting, high-intensity cardio, or just a good walk. Just go and do something.

What do you want to be? How committed are you to breaking out of your lifestyle prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/ ? If you can’t fix yourself physically, you’ll be mentally and emotionally frail, too.

Get it sorted. No more excuses.

You’re never too busy to exercise.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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433 - No Poison!

June 21, 2018

Fixing yourself https://www.excellence-expected.com/edge so you can live a more fulfilling life is as much about fixing your surroundings as it is about fixing your inner world.

Think about it. Where do you “end”, exactly? Do you end at your skin? Or is your desk, in some way, also a part of you? If your space is very messy, your mind tends to become messy too. What about the people in your life? Maybe what makes up “you” extends to your network and your social circles.

So, when you’re fixing yourself, part of the journey is fixing the company you keep.

I was in a lifestyle prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/, as I call it, when I was working at Hacksaw. I had a decent life, earning decent money… in fact, I was earning more than I’m earning now. The same goes for Kieran, my business partner. He was earning plenty. He had all the trimmings - season tickets, nice cars, nice house, holidays. It was all “nice” but dull. We were imprisoned by our comfort.

We decided we wanted more out of life, so we embarked on a journey to build a SaaS platform for podcasters, Podcast Websites https://podcastwebsites.com/ 

Our journey didn’t end there. See, it’s not just about moving from one business to the next. It’s also about levelling up the people around you.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 433 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

Are You Poisoning Your Well?

I’m sure you’ve heard the classic Jim Rohn quote: “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Be honest. Do some of your five people bring you down?

I made a conscious decision at the start of the year to cut out the people in my life that were poisoning my well.

If someone didn’t see things as I saw them, if I couldn’t have a fulfilling conversation with them, they had to go. If we only had superficial small-talk, why were we talking at all?

I stopped going to the local town and drink. I went elsewhere. I’d go to bars in Sheffield, Leeds, Manchester, or London. I started spending more time elsewhere, even New York. I swapped out all the people and places that weren’t contributing to what I wanted in life.

It sounds harsh, but Jim was right. The people you spend time with really do rub off on you.

Why associate with people who drag you down?

When you start building a more fulfilling life, people will say, “Aren’t you lucky?” It’s not f*cking luck! It’s about having a vision, working your arse off, and building something valuable. You want people around you who see and understand that.

The people who think you’re just lucky, over time, become resentful. You need people who appreciate the effort your putting in and admire you for it.

The No Poison Experiment

Treat this as an experiment. I decided to do it for a year, but choose any amount of time you’re comfortable with. Get out of those circles. Stop going to those places. Replace the people who hold you back with people who share your mindset of growth and excellence.

If the people around you are gossips, preferring to talk about people rather than ideas, that’s another red flag.

We had an issue with our neighbours at the office https://www.excellence-expected.com/431 on a Friday not long ago when we cranked up the music while we worked. Bless him. He must have been having a really bad day.

This morning when I came into work, Kieran brought him up. I shut the conversation down. I might have sounded like a bit of a dick, but it only promotes a poisonous mindset to talk about those kinds of people. It brings the atmosphere down and can set the day off with just a little more negativity than you need.

Carve off a period of time to cut out all the poison from your life. Just you wait and see what happens.

Fix The Company You Keep & Build A More Fulfilling Life

To fix yourself and successfully go through the stepping stone process https://www.excellence-expected.com/404/ to make a more fulfilling life without sacrificing your lifestyle, make it a priority to level up the people around you.

Stop being around the people and places that poison your well. Stop having conversations that put a pointless downer on you.

If you don’t, you’ll find yourself wondering, “Why am I not doing what I know I could do? Why am I falling so far short of my potential?”

It’ll be because you’re focused on the wrong things. Your mental energy is taken fighting fires rather than building one that will sustain you.

Remove the poison.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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432 - Time to Punch Above Your Weight…

June 20, 2018

What wallpaper have you got on your smartphone?

I’ve got a very simple one. It’s a black screen with two white words in the middle.

PLAY BIG

I put that on my phone at the beginning of the year to remind me not to spend all my time in the day-to-day running of the business, to remember to think bigger, aim higher, and punch above my perceived weight.

After 6 months of having this focus, we’ve done some amazing things. We were able to put new products together and rework our business, based on this idea of thinking a lot bigger.

I want you to start being more audacious.

Start doing things people say you can’t do.

I’m going to share two examples from my own life. If you’re getting ready to make a move and break out of your lifestyle prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/, you first have to fix yourself https://www.excellence-expected.com/edge… emotionally, mentally, physically.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 432 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

Be Audacious

One of the mental blocks we all face is putting a glass ceiling above ourselves.

Kieran and I both come from, frankly, sh*thole towns. Barnsley and Rotherham (we can say that since we’re local boys). We were brought up to think about the day to day, to think about revenue, to think small.

We weren’t taught to think bigger than two, three, maybe six grand a month. That’s not bad. You can get a nice house and everything, but it’s kind of boring.

If that’s your goal, you can earn it with a lot less stress than running your own business. You can go and work for someone else. You can be a freelancer. But that wasn’t going to bring us the fulfilment we wanted. We didn’t want to have in the back of our minds the knowledge that we could have played in much bigger leagues if we chose to.

So we decided to be audacious.

We decided to enter the podcasting world and do things that, even to this day, people say we shouldn’t be doing. Some of the more traditional podcasting companies say, “Do people really need podcast websites? You can just throw up a Wordpress site and find your own plugins.”

They’re missing the point. And it’s wonderful for us that they do. The more they talk smack about it, the more people hear about it and the more people come to us saying that what we offer is exactly what they need. It’s great marketing for us.

We came into a new space and we did things differently by being audacious.

Aim For Things You “Shouldn’t” Be Able To Achieve

When I started Excellence Expected https://www.excellence-expected.com/, I was rejected by a local organisation that was supposed to support creative digital projects. They sent me out to crack on by myself.

Instead of getting support from them I chose to be audacious.

I got interviewees from Dragon’s Den, Apple, and people like Chris Brogan. We got people that others said we would never get, and now I speak on stage with some of these people. I’ve been interviewed by them myself https://www.smartpassiveincome.com/askpat/plan-your-content/. There are heavy hitters that used to seem like they were from another world that now I call friends. That’s what you get when you’re audacious.

You’re only held back by your limiting beliefs and your resistance to feeling uncomfortable.

Don’t get me wrong. Kieran and I still suffer from this a lot. We’ll turn up at work and think about our own little ecosystem. We sometimes forget we’re aiming to play in a bigger field than the one we’re currently in. We sometimes make decisions based on smaller thinking. We know this, and we consciously pull ourselves back from time to time to look at the big picture and think on another level.

You’ll be surprised what becomes possible when you make the simple choice to play big.

How To Start Playing With The Heavy Hitters

All these “big” people you want to work with are just like you and me.

They are no different aside from the size of their thinking. They just want to do good work. If you work with them you can make their lives easier. That’s all you need to do to get in their circles. They are completely within your reach.

Punch above your weight. Start thinking crazy.

Getting a “No” from a massive, international brand is the same as getting a “No” from your next-door neighbour.

And getting a “Yes” is also just as easy.

Two words…PLAY BIG!

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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431 - Don’t Hold on to The Negative

June 19, 2018

Last week, on a Friday afternoon, myself, Kieran (my business partner), and the rest of the Podcast Websites https://podcastwebsites.com/ team were working in our office, we had the music on and we were having a good time as we worked.

Someone from a neighbouring office suddenly barged into our space, and said, “I don’t know if you guys are pissed drunk, but we’re doing some real work. Turn that off.”

Now, if he had politely asked us to keep it down I would have had zero problem with him. We didn’t know the music was travelling through the walls, and we want to make our neighbours happy.

Instead, he decided to be a dick.

I told him I would turn the music down but that since he’s being rude to my team, he would have to leave immediately. As he left he said, “Oh, f*ck off then.”

I sat on this exchange for a few minutes. I started to think about what the old Mark would do. He would stew on it. It would play on his mind for the rest of the night, even over the weekend.

Instead, I decided to go next door.

I shook this guy’s hand and said I owed him an apology for not telling him that he can never talk to our team like that again.

I told him I was sorry he thought he could represent his business that way. The rest of his team seemed perfectly fine, but he was rude and swore at me and my team. I told him I was sorry about the music but it was the first time he’s heard it and to act that way was an embarrassment to him and his team.

He got a little sh*tty, of course, but I had already said my piece so I wished him a good weekend, shook his hand, and left.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 431 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

How To Let Go & Free Up Mental Energy

In the part of my brain where empathy lives, there’s another part that worries.

In order to fix myself https://www.excellence-expected.com/edge/, I had to find a way to let go of that worry.

I used to be a terrible over thinker. Past Mark would have sat on that experience all weekend. I would have let his bad mood ruin my day and my weekend https://www.excellence-expected.com/425. I might have even lost sleep over it.

Instead, with a little more mindfulness I was able to let go of the part of me that wanted to stew over the injustice and get grumpy. It then became clear what was necessary to set things right and stand up for my team.

I realised he was probably just having a bad day and we were the easiest people to take it out on. I feel bad for him. He believed he was justified to ruin his relationship with a neighbouring business just because he was in a bad mood. Imagine how many other ways that mindset has hurt his life and business in the past, and will continue to.

Save Your Energy For What Matters

Things like this are going to happen to you. Things are going to crop up that could play on your mind and waste your time with useless worry.

You’ve got every right to speak your mind, to be honest, to defend your corner, the people around you, to fight the battles you deem worthy. Don’t get hit in the mouth and take it lying down. If you do, the reason it plays on your mind is because you know you should have done something about it and you didn’t.

You’ve got to stand up for yourself and make no apologies for that.

Maybe you have a fear of confrontation. That’s a good thing. If you’re an agreeable person then yes, you have an extra feeling of anxiety when entering a confrontation, but you also have a natural ability to smooth things over politely while still holding your ground, where a disagreeable dickhead would only make things worse.

I know it’s fun, in a dark sort of way, to nurture grudges or to beat yourself up about something. But when you’re trying to break out of your lifestyle prison, you need all the mental energy you can get to focus on the things that really matter. You need to let go of everything else.

Don’t hold on to the negative. It’s a waste of your time and energy. Just let it go.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to excellence-expected.com/aweber https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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430 - Find Your Pace of Change (Reprise)

June 18, 2018

Are you afflicted by analysis paralysis or are you the sort of person who dives into everything feet first?

I’m the latter. I make my decisions based on whatever facts I have at hand. I don’t wait for them to line up perfectly, and that’s a good thing.

I’ve coached people in the past who were hopelessly impeded by analysis paralysis. They gave themselves too many options, stalled on which one to choose, and as a result, they never got anything done.

Do you think the analysis paralysis guys are wrong and that I’m right for diving into things?

Do you think you’re wrong to move at your own pace?

I’m here to tell you, you shouldn’t think that moving faster is always better. Everyone moves at their own pace. Move faster than your natural speed and you’re rushing. You’ll end up making stupid mistakes. Move slower than your natural speed and you’ll stall indefinitely.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 430 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

The World Needs Different Types of People

Breaking out of your “lifestyle prisonhttps://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/ to live a more fulfilling life isn’t something to be taken lightly. Why move at anyone else’s pace? Why feel bad for moving too slow because other people move fast?

Why feel bad about moving too fast because some people move slow?

You have to find your own speed. Otherwise, you’re going to feel you’re not doing things right.

You’ll go from one side to the other. “Everything’s moving too fast!” Then, “I’m not getting anything done!”

As long as you’re still in the race, you’re doing fine! Like the hare and tortoise, sometimes the wiser, more careful mover can end up winning because someone moving faster makes a silly mistake.

The world needs different types of people.

You’re not 22 anymore. You’ve got something to lose. You’ve got a lifestyle you love. You’ve got people that rely on you. This is not a light-switch. Changing your day-to-day life, shockingly, will take time. How much time is something you need to decide.

Unrushed Success

A coaching client and friend of mine, Steve Lazarus (who’s building Your London Legacy) https://yourlondonlegacy.com/, is a prime example of someone who has found his natural pace of change.

He came to me for coaching to help create a podcast about his insurance claims business. We tried a bunch of things but nothing stuck. He didn’t enjoy it. One day, he said he’d been listening to my podcast. He said it felt like I was talking directly to him.

I said, “Steve, are you stuck in a lifestyle prison?” He said, “Yes! I am! I want to do something more fulfilling.”

Soon after, we came up with the idea of Your London Legacy, telling the hidden stories of London’s biggest personalities.

It’s an amazing concept and I know it’s going to be huge.

Steve did everything right. He went over and above what most podcasters do when they start a show. He’s becoming a tech guy, a producer, a scriptwriter, and an interviewer. He’s made tremendous progress.

And he did it at his own pace.

We could have launched his podcast 3 months ago, or we could have decided to launch it 6 months from now. Instead, we chose a launch date somewhere in the middle that suits Steve’s pace of change.

Steve, like anyone else, found his pace of change was somewhere in the middle of analysis paralysis and diving in feet first. He never once felt bad about not moving as fast as humanly possible.

He knew that, despite his high ambition, he couldn’t sacrifice everything else in his day-to-day just to shave a few months off the process. Life had to go on.

Speed or Quality

There’s a speed of action and a quality of action.

People who suffer from analysis paralysis have a personality that leans toward quality of action. They feel anxious about whether or not they make the right call.

Those who dive into everything as fast as possible were born with a personality that leans toward speed of action. They feel anxious about whether or not they’re waiting too long to decide.

Both speed and quality of action are important. Sometimes you might need to make a call faster than you’re comfortable with. Other times it might be best to take a minute and really think it through.

What is your natural speed?

How fast can you move? How fast do you want to move?

Find your pace of change, accept it, and get to work.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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429 - You Don’t Need to be Right - You Need to Be Heard

June 15, 2018

Is a strong person always right?

If you feel unfulfilled and bored, and you want to break out of your lifestyle prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/, you need more than just to know the steps. There’s no “10 Simple Steps to an Awesome Life” out there that works for everyone.

The reason is the knowledge is not enough on its own. You need to make yourself strong as well. You need resilience to make a big change in your life so you can withstand the pushback and challenges that will smash into your plans.

You need to fix yourself, first. You need to set up mental, emotional, and physical habits that will build your strength and resilience so you can be who you need to be to transform your life.

What does being right have to do with being resilient? We talk more about this in podcast episode 429 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

The Weakness of Rightness

If you’re anything like me, when you were young you were desperate to be right.

I was a sh*t bag for it.

All I cared about was having the last word and being right every time. Even if I was wrong, I wouldn’t care. I’d still think, “Nah, I’m right.”

What an idiot! Honestly.

But as I grew up, I realised you’re being weak if you value “being right”. Make your goal to “be right”, and you stop caring about the truth.

What’s better for your business? Winning every argument… or getting to the truth?

Let’s take an example…

Imagine your analytics guy comes to you with crap sales numbers. You think it’s because of a problem with your product-market. Your business partner thinks it’s because your sales funnel sucks.

Either one could be right at this point. You don’t f*cking know, and neither does your business partner. Your job as leaders is to put your egos to one side for the sake of the business and find the truth.

It’s even more tempting to try to be right with an employee. Maybe you don’t have a business partner, and your designer comes to you suggesting that the sales funnel is the problem.

You think, “He’s not the marketing expert here, I am! He’s “just” a designer. I’m clearly right. The problem is product-market fit.”

What you’ve forgotten is he’s been working on every inch of that sales funnel as he’s worked on the UI element to it. He’s got a head for marketing and his gut tells him something should be changed about the structure or the copy.

He might be right.

And if he is… and you care too much about being right to seriously entertain his gut feeling… and sales don’t stop dropping. Bye bye, new exciting business. Hello, square one.

Caring about being right is weak.

It’s Time to Grow Up

Grow past your adolescent need to be right.

The truth is, we don’t really want to be right. We only think we do because we mistake it for what we really want – to be heard and understood.

When we’re young, we wanted to be right because we were crazily insecure. We didn’t know which way was up or who we were. “Being right” gave us the feeling of status, the feeling of intelligence, and the feeling of being heard and understood.

It was all a lie.

You don’t score points for being right. You score points for living well, for being a good person who people can actually talk to. You build relationships with two-way conversations, not with a series of fights you’re always trying to win.

How Being Right Sabotages You

Not being able to back down and admit when you’re wrong will sabotage you. I see this all the time.

Some of my Podcast Accelerator coaching clients (and if you’re reading this…you know who you are!) cannot think past their egos sometimes.

I have to push back and say, “Do you know what? Stop it! Be quiet for one second and actually listen to what I’m saying.”

We’ve all got to practice the art of truly hearing what people are trying to say when they’re talking to us, not just listen to the words well enough to cobble together a response as to why you think they’re wrong.

You don’t need to be right.

You need truth and understanding. That’s your job as a leader.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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428 - Break Out of The System

June 14, 2018

I’m a funny sort of person.

I tend to do whatever I want to do.

I don’t read many personal development books. However, I’ve found recently they like to show up at the exact moment I need them.

I’ve usually come to most of the conclusions in those books already. They then help me expand on the idea with suggestions and tactics.

For example, when I was a kid and started my first business, I used to say yes to whatever I wanted and then figure out how to do it on the fly.

I don’t come from a particularly entrepreneurial background, so when I read that one of Richard Branson’s favourite sayings was, “Say yes to things and then figure them out later.” I thought, Holy sh*t, really? No wonder people always called me entrepreneurial.

It happened again when we were last faced with a turning point in Podcast Websites https://podcastwebsites.com/We came to the conclusion we needed to make structural and process-based changes so we could scale. That same week I finally pick up The E-Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber, and the whole thing is about how to do just that!

Books show up when I need them.

I’ve always said screw the system, I’ll do things my way, I’ll do what I want to do. It doesn’t matter if people say I can’t. I decided to start talking about how exactly someone might develop that mindset. Then I finally read Choose Yourself, and the book lined up with that to a T.

I talk more about all this in podcast episode 428 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

The Third Box You Live In (The Biggy!)

We’ve talked already about having a professional box https://www.excellence-expected.com/398-the-world-doesnt-need-more-professionals/ and a personal box https://www.excellence-expected.com/399-the-other-box-you-live-in/. But there is a third box.

The third box is so huge and universal most people never see its edges. It does its best to control and limit us all. Yet, all it takes to break out of it is a simple decision.

The third box is “the system”.

We are indoctrinated early on to think and feel and act within the boundaries that our teachers and often parents set for us.

All we have to do is say to ourselves we’re not going to buy into that. We’re going to question everything and test the real boundaries of reality for ourselves.

Does this mean to run around, booking the system at every chance and generally be a dick about it? No, of course not.

It means we’re going to see things differently.

It means we won’t assume what’s possible.

When people say “You can’t do that,” that’s a statement said from within the third box. Go ahead and do what they say you can’t.

When The Third Box Tried to Stop My Podcast From Happening

When I started my podcast, I tried to get support from a local lady in the CDI sector. I thought it was a sure thing she would help me (CDI stands for creative and digital industries, after all). Guess what? She didn’t.

Instead, she poo-pooed it, saying something to the effect of, “Oh, look at you, all cute, doing a little podcast.”

My natural inner-response was, “F*ck… you,” with a big dollop of, “I’ll show you.”

And I did. I did bigger things than she ever considered possible.

I became friends with Chris Brogan, a huge name on the web. I spoke with him at events.

I got to talk to Guy Kawasaki from Apple for one of my earliest interviews. I had no track record, no testimony, nothing to back me up. Until that time I had only interviewed local friends, colleagues and clients. Then, all of a sudden, I got Guy-freakin’-Kawasaki. Why? Because I booked the system.

The traditional bounds this person from the CDI sector worked within was to go up one rung at a time, gradually climbing the ladder over many years.

I said I am not going to work within your traditional bounds. I went big as early as I dared, and it worked.

I want you to start doing the same. Think big. Book the system. See what happens

The third box (which you can barely see around you) is made of a million rules, expectations, and unquestioned assumptions.

Break out. Be whatever you want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/what-do-i-want-to-do-with-my-life/. Do the things no one thinks you can do.

You will be surprised at the results.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

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