Overcoming your limiting self beliefs is all about doing the things you thought you couldn’t do, things people have told you you can’t do, or things you believe you won’t be good at.
Recently I decided to learn the piano. I’m spending a few minutes a day chipping away at it. It’s a new skill, and I’m not getting hung up on the fact that it’s taking a while. That’s what happens when you break through an old boundary. I’m making incremental progress, which means eventually I’ll get there.
You can do the same with anything you want to do
I was told by my friends all through my adolescence that I didn’t have the ‘build’ or metabolism to build muscle. I believed it for years. Eventually, I made a choice to find out. Turns out they were wrong!
I’m sure you’ve got a laundry list of stuff you’ve wanted to do for a long time. Maybe you want to go salsa dancing. Maybe you want to go scuba diving. Maybe you just want to ask a certain someone out for coffee.
You can do them all. Every single one. I talk more about how on podcast episode 453 of The 7 Minute Mentor.
How Many Boundaries Can You Crush In A Lifetime?
I’ve talked about doing that “one thing” you’ve wanted to do forever but never thought you could. But now I’m talking about things, plural.
What boundaries have the world put up around you? How can you start breaking them today?
Make a list.
List everything you think you can’t do. Everything that scares you because you might look foolish if you try. Maybe you’ve always wanted to sing a wild-ass karaoke song, but you never had the guts to do it because you were worried what other people might think. Write down every boundary.
Then, start to break them down, one by one.
You don’t have to jump up on stage right away and smash that one song. Start by doing a group song, then a duet, and eventually take the last step and do your song.
If you never thought you could do a marathon and you’re out of shape, but you’d love to have that on your record, start by running just 5 minutes a day. Gradually build up to 15, 30, 45 minutes, and then sign up for a quarter-marathon.
Each and every boundary will take a strategy to break. Bit by bit. Incremental progress. It might take a year, it might take 3 months, it might take a week, but if you don’t start breaking through the first boundary today, it will always be up, and it will always control you.
Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously
The desire not to look a fool, to save face, is a powerful emotion. I used to take myself way too seriously for the exact same reason. There was no good reason to. No good comes out of having a grim and prideful view of yourself. I kept myself back and I kept myself down. It was silly. I wish I’d learned this earlier.
Take your dignity with a grain of salt. So what if, the first time you meet up with your singing coach, your voice cracks like a 15-year-old boy? Laugh it off and keep going. You’ll get there.
I finally swallowed my pride, looked like a fool, and started dismantling my self-made boundaries. I want you to start breaking down your boundaries, too.
Other people might try to drag you down, say that something isn’t for people like you, that it’s for people like “them”… (the mysterious “them”). Put it all down on paper. You can do anything, and you can do everything. Hike that mountain, swim that mile, play that saxophone at a jazz club.
You can do it all as long as you set your mind and your heart to the task. I truly believe that.
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