427 - Don’t Be Impartial!

June 13, 2018

Your personality is your secret weapon.

And to have a personality… you need some opinions.

You don’t need to be close-minded and stubborn. In fact, one of your strongly-held beliefs should probably be that open-mindedness is a great thing! Joe Rogan holds that opinion very strongly. It’s part of what defines him, and his authenticity is a big part of his podcast’s ridiculous success.

In this online, high-accountability style of business that most of us are into, the biggest mistake you can make is to be impartial. To be impartial, to have no opinion, hides your true personality.

What do you actually think? Hear me say what I think about this on episode 427 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

Don’t Be Grey

One of the biggest mistakes that entrepreneurs make, young and old, is to try to protect themselves by hiding their true opinion. They are just impartial.

You have to have an opinion. You’ve got to evoke emotions, strong positive or strong negative. If you don’t evoke any emotion then what you’re creating, pitching, or presenting won’t make any impact.

Without an opinion, you become a nondescript, grey sort of person that falls into the background. No one will remember what you were talking about.

You’ll find it impossible to find your tribe because no one will feel that they strongly resonate with you.

How to Have an Opinion Without Becoming “Opinionated”

I’m not saying to blindly put your stake in some badly-thought-out idea just so you can have one. It might be a little better than being impartial but it’s still destructive. We can easily sabotage ourselves by faking confidence in our opinions.

It’s not having any old opinion that matters. It’s having a good one.

Research it. Live by it. Know what you’re talking about and why. Even still, be willing and open to change your opinion when presented with new facts.

All the above are attributes of a leader. Be a leader.

Your Opinion Will Be The Core of Your Escape

I’m all about fixing yourself, mentally, emotionally, and physically in order to escape from your lifestyle prison… the feeling of being trapped in an unfulfilling role (even if you created it yourself).

Your strongest, well-thought-out opinion about the market you’re moving into will be at the very core of that escape.

What do you believe about your market or sector? Do you know its history? Are you sure of its future? How sure? Where’s the data?

Why do we sabotage ourselves by only having a little bit of information?

Why do we not live by our opinion about our industry? Why do we just latch onto things?

For example, someone I know online who worked in content marketing posted something the other day. GDPR has just come around, a new European legislation to protect user data. All of a sudden, she’s a data privacy expert!

I thought, How can you possibly do that? How can you move so quickly? How can you have an opinion that is strongly formed enough that you can build a business around already?

Sadly, I can almost guarantee she won’t build that business. I saw her go through the same cycle with content marketing. Instead of living it and breathing it and having an opinion on it she simply dipped her toe in and became an overnight “expert”.

I think the same of social media gurus in 2008 and SEO experts in 2002. There hadn’t been enough time to be a true “guru” yet. The few true experts that exist are not impartial. They will plainly tell you what they believe and whether or not they believe in what you’re doing.

Be a true expert. Have a goddam opinion.

Do “You”

This is all part of fixing yourself, become resilient enough to build a new, more fulfilling life. Get yourself to the point where you’re comfortable sharing your opinion.

That doesn’t mean you have to be like me, chucking swear words around and being kind of boisterous and loud. In fact, that won’t work if that’s not already you. If you think it would, you’ve missed the truth of authenticity https://www.excellence-expected.com/youre-doing-authenticity-wrong/

You can only be comfortable in your opinion if it’s true for you, right to your core. Then you can comfortable with people pushing back on it (which they will do).

Remember, the people around you may not be your tribe https://www.excellence-expected.com/426 even when you thought they would be. Having an opinion will separate the wheat from the chaff and reveal who’s really on your side.

What do you stand for? Don’t be grey. Be the leader.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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426 - Accept That Your Tribe Is NOT Who You Think

June 12, 2018

Who you attract might shock you.

If you close yourself off from people you don’t think are your natural tribe members, you’ll miss out on your best allies.

I thought for a long time that people “like me” – people running small businesses, maybe builders, accountants, plumbers, marketers, designers – were my “tribe”. But they’re not.

As I’ve said before, what you do doesn’t define you https://www.excellence-expected.com/what-do-i-want-to-do-with-my-life/, but what they do also doesn’t define them.

Just because someone set up a web design business, and I also had a web design business, doesn’t mean we’re cut from the same cloth. It doesn’t mean my content will resonate with them on a deep level. It doesn’t mean they’ll support me as I break out of my lifestyle prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/

We are much deeper than what we do for a living. It’s our deeper levels that define what we resonate with, and who our tribes are. Listen to podcast episode 426 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/ to hear more about this.

The People You Thought Were in Your Corner

You’ll be knocked back by people you mistakenly thought were part of your tribe.

It might hurt, but you have to accept it and move on.

For example, when I first set up Volume One https://www.excellence-expected.com/audio/ of the Excellence Expected podcast, I went to my local creative and digital expert in Barnsley, someone responsible for boosting the CDI (creative and digital industries) in the local area.

We had been in her newsletter before. We had helped them out with things like designing her newsletter template. I had spoken on stage at their events. We had a really good relationship.

I asked for support, including a mention in the newsletter and referrals for interviews. None of it materialised.

She didn’t support me at all. Why? I didn’t realise at the time but she was simply not in my tribe. She didn’t “get” what I was doing. That’s it.

I was a kid with some new-fangled thing called a podcast. No one really knew what a podcast was in Barnsley at the time, and she wasn’t willing to go out on a limb for me.

What did I do in response? I simply washed my hands of that particular business relationship.

Don’t get me wrong. We’re on fine terms. There’s no resentment. It was just clear that this was a relationship that would remain one-sided. I used to bend over backwards to help, doing high-value things for free like speaking at events and giving coaching time.

Now I put that time and effort into attracting people that are my tribe.

The Unexpected Ally

I’ve got a good friend called Birdy. 

We know each other locally through mutual friends. He’s got his own business as a plumber. He likes the hustle and the grind and makes a good living. I thought he was perfectly content where he was, with no particular interest in personal development or entrepreneurship.

He’s been a great friend for a long time, but when it comes to professional work or personal development I didn’t think he was my tribe.

As luck would have it, he decided to give my content a go. Turns out he didn’t realise that I did what I did in such depth and it immediately resonated with him.

He got in touch. We went out for a Brazilian meat feast and shot the sh*t for a while, and by the end, I knew I had another strong ally in my tribe. I gave him a shout out from my podcast back in April.

It turns out a “random” friend who I’ve already chatted to many times is a natural part of my professional tribe, and I’m a natural part of his. I never would have expected it.

Your tribe is not always who you think.

Get Over It

We don’t like to feel out of control, but trust me, you can’t control this one.

Sometimes we want certain people to be a part of our tribe who just aren’t a natural fit and never will be.

It’s a bit like fancying someone from a distance, only to find out when you meet that you just don’t “click”.

The moment you find that out, it’s time to walk away. Don’t waste any more time on a relationship that’s not resonating, be it personal or business.

Listeners say all the time, “Mark, it’s like you’re talking directly to me.” Find the people like that for you. Trust me. Life is much easier that way.

There’s no shortage of people. Go and attract your natural tribe.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to excellence-expected.com/aweber https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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425 - Don’t Let Their Day Ruin Your Day

June 11, 2018

No one is in control of how you feel but you.

Every Sunday I go round to my Mum’s. It’s a routine of mine. I go to see my lovely grandma, Doris, my Mum and my nephews and niece.

A few weeks ago I went round as usual and my Mum’s pissed off.

My Mum wears her emotions on her sleeve. She doesn’t hide them. On this occasion, it was an argument that set her off. Next door there’s a guy she’s known for 24 years, maybe longer. They got in a tiff about something petty and silly. Just a little squabble.

And that little squabble ruined her day.

It spread to me right away, because I didn’t want to let this go without a mention. I said, “Okay, so you’ve had a tiff with your old friend. Yes, it’s shit, but you’ve just let it ruin your entire day. He was having a bad day himself. He’s in a wheelchair, his eyesight isn’t what it used to be… Can you blame him for having some pent-up frustration? He’s struggling. Why let the fact he was snappy with you ruin the rest of your day?”

We’ve got to have empathy. People have bad days. Everyone’s flawed. They’re going to take it out on you from time to time. So what?

But instead of thinking like that, my Mum let this argument ruin her day with her kids, (me and Izzy), with her grandkids, with my dad Lee, and it’s 100% avoidable.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 425 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

Why You Literally Lose Money When You Take Something Personally

I’ve struggled with the same thing. I would take everything personally. I must have got it from Mum. Maybe that’s why I didn’t want to let it go when I saw it come up again for her. I know what it’s like to get past this.

Up until about 3 or 4 years ago, if someone was having a bad day and they snapped at me, I would think, Oh my God, what have I done to annoy them?

People generally don’t give a sh*t about you https://www.excellence-expected.com/423-no-one-likes-me-well-me-either/. It’s liberating to realise that. Even the ones that do care about you are still in their own complex, chaotic worlds. Whatever they say to you, it’s almost never about you.

I didn’t get that. Instead, one measly out-of-the-blue snappy remark was enough to derail the day. I’d be less productive, I’d snap at others and spread the hate, and/or I’d start questioning myself and get upset. That’s what this has to do with business. Taking things personally actually loses you money.

Do not let other people ruin your day.

“But Mark, they really upset me this time!”

I don’t give a rat’s ass.

  1. What right do they have to take your productivity and happiness?
  2. What’s the bloody point? How can it possibly be better for your business or life to let one tiny piece of negativity derail the day? Don’t you want to be more resilient than that?

Fixing yourself https://www.excellence-expected.com/419-junes-theme-fixing-yourself-first/ is all about becoming more resilient so you can handle the change and turmoil that often comes when you’re preparing to switch jobs or businesses.

The Key to Rising Above

The key to overcoming this kind of sensitivity is, weirdly, another type of sensitivity. But it’s not a self-focused one. It’s other-focused.

It’s empathy.

Empathy can actually make you feel better after a difficult exchange, not worse.

It can feel like you’ve done a good deed for the day. It’s a valuable thing to the people in your life if you can absorb their pain for a moment and offer them understanding in return, instead of the reactionary hurt they were expecting.

Empathy also helps you notice you’re not doing too bad yourself. By understanding they’re only having a bad day and you rise above their little outburst, you realise you’re truly in control of your life.

When you can rise above, you realise only you will dictate how the day is going to go, what the outcome’s going to be, and how you’re going to be.

If you’re serious about making a change in your life, people will react. Their own inadequacies may flare up. They’ll have bad days, get a little jealous and shoot a quick guilt-trip your way, or whatever it is.

Do you let it hold you back? Or do you brush it off?

Only you decide.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to excellence-expected.com/aweber https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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424 - “No One Thinks I’m Any Good” - Well, Me Too

June 8, 2018

Do people look down on you?

When I started Podcast Websites https://podcastwebsites.com/ with my business partner Kieran, we decided not take any investment. We didn’t need the money, and we wanted to bootstrap it and fund it with sales.

We knew there was a need for it, so all we had to do was build an MVP and get it out to market and promote it however we could. My intent was to market it through my own podcast and at my speaking gigs such as Podcast Movement (where I’ve spoken for the past 4 years now).

We had a plan.

A big part of that plan was to partner with John Lee Dumas at Entrepreneur on Fire. I’d been on John’s show and we were getting to know each other. I shot him an email and told him that I had a great idea, so let’s make a beta version, put it in front of your audience and we’ll be JV (joint venture) partners.

It worked, but then things got a bit weird. You can hear me tell the whole story in podcast episode 424 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

The Gossip Began

It got back to me through the grapevine that people were gossiping, saying things like, “They only did well because of John.”

They hadn’t looked at the product, or at me, Kieran, or the business. They were saying John gave us money to help us through, which isn’t true at all.

They put into my head that no one thought I was any good. They said we saw someone else who was successful and decided to piggy-back off that success. It’s just not true. Sure, we have a good percentage of sales coming from John’s audience, and they are great members. It’s a fantastic partnership that works really well because of the crossover of audiences. But the business stands on its own.

How I Got Over It

I was stuck with the feeling that people didn’t take me seriously.

I had already built a design agency that works with Adobe and The New York Times and all sorts of different businesses all over the world. We had a great team and made great money. Despite all this, I still thought people didn’t think I was good enough because I had entered a new industry and gotten started by partnering with someone who was already a success.

Here’s what I quickly realised – It’s par for the course.

People are always going to come after you, slate you, question you. They won’t do it to your face. People are slimy. They want to take you down a peg because of their insecurity, not yours. It’s like the teacher that I talked about in podcast episode 421 https://www.excellence-expected.com/421 or the boss from episode 422 https://www.excellence-expected.com/422. It’s their own sh*t they’re dealing with.

Remember two things…

#1: It’s 100% their problem. Forget it. Just focus on being as nice as you can. Kill them with kindness. Some of those same people who talked a little sh*t about me I’m great friends with now. We drink at conferences. I’ve got a lot of respect for them and always have because I don’t expect people to be perfect.

#2: A little smack-talk isn’t going to hurt your success. Any industry can take more competition. As long as you’re ethical, honest and have a great product, then there will always be more customers to acquire and more room for new players. If I hire a plumber, for example, all I want to know is that he’s honest and fair and that he can do my damn bathroom to a good standard. It doesn’t matter how we got introduced or whether he’s relatively new to the game.

You’re good at what you do. It’s other people who project their insecurity onto you.

Put them out of mind and get back to work.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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423 - “No One Likes Me” - Well, Me Either

June 7, 2018

No one gives a sh*t about you. I’m not even sorry.

Anxiety is an awful thing. I didn’t really appreciate how hard it is to deal with and how many people have it until I noticed that I struggle with it a little bit, myself. I’ve been in relationships where the other person had it much worse than me and I didn’t understand the way it afflicted people. It’s one of my biggest regrets.

For me, it shows up when I meet new people. I have this weird thing where I meet someone new, no matter who they are, and I assume they don’t like me.

I felt it when I met Gary Vaynerchuk recently. I felt it with customers, members, podcast guests, partners, colleagues, friends, friends of friends, parents of friends. Honestly, I felt it with everyone.

It’s a massive mental block that’s held me back for my entire life. It’s something that needed fixing. Thankfully, I have found a way to fix it the majority of the time. I have the odd bad day, but 95% of the time I’m completely over this anxiety.

You’ve got to do the same thing. I talk more about how in podcast episode 423 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

How to Short-Circuit The Anxiety That People Don’t Like You

If someone doesn’t like you, it’s for a reason. You need to give most people a damn good excuse to actually dislike you.

Who gives a sh*t anyway? If someone doesn’t like you, don’t waste your emotional energy on them. If you’ve got to convince them to like you, they’re not a good person to have in your life.

It’s a huge mental block to feel that people don’t like you. But if you’re going to smash down the walls of your Lifestyle Prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/, you are going to need other people. You’ve got to get over this. You can’t go through your life and build a side hustle keeping everyone on the outside, thinking they don’t like you. It’s going to hold you back. It did to me. It kept me trapped at my design agency, Hacksaw, for a long time. It made me feel it would be impossible to build up trust again for a new business in a new industry.

Next time you feel it crop up, tell yourself: “You cannot be serious!”

You’ve just met someone and they don’t like you already?? That’s almost impossible. It’s a crazy thing to assume. Why would someone not like you? You’ve just met them!

If you’ve ever read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, he talks about being present at all times and understanding the symptoms of the egoic mind.

This is no different. You have to notice when feelings of anxiety start creeping in. Once you notice it in the moment, you can do something about it.

You can fix it by asking yourself, “Why wouldn’t they like me? What’s not to like? I’m a nice person, we get along, I’m enjoying what I’m doing and so do they. What’s not to like?”

This is going to take time. I’m no psychologist, but it’s something I’ve been dealing with for a long time. Crush it by reminding yourself:

  1. You are a likeable, nice person
  2. You’re doing good stuff and you’re genuine
  3. People generally like all those things

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don’t forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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422 - Your Boss Doesn’t Know Better - Change That Mindset NOW!

June 6, 2018

We are indoctrinated early on to believe that our teachers, our bosses, and the so-called “experts” around us are better than we are at everything.

That’s wrong. Plain and simple.

Instead, I believe the only things we need to rely upon are our intuition and our mental clarity. 

Knowledge is transient. We’ll learn things and forget things all the time. I’m a big fan of just-in-time learning. In the moment I need something – BOOM, I’m obsessed by it and I’m doing a deep-dive online. I become an expert in that thing until I can do what I needed to do. Then I’m done with it. I don’t need it anymore.

Although knowledge is transient, intuition and mental clarity are constants, and they are the biggest things we need to rely upon. 

I talk more about this in podcast episode 422 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/ 

Your Worst Decision 

I want to ask you one question. When was the last time you made a really f*cking bad decision. 

I honestly can’t think of one. I’m not some super-genius. I just go with my gut.

Sure, I’ve made some questionable decisions. Some I might have made a little differently with the benefit of hindsight.

Truly awful decisions are rare things. At the bottom of all the facts and knowledge, what are the things we rely upon? Our intuition and our mental clarity. Our gut feeling. That’s where the buck stops when it comes to decision making. That’s why your boss doesn’t know better.

I told you already about a time my teacher told me I was a potential criminal https://www.excellence-expected.com/edge/. Who gives a sh*t? Point is, my bosses, throughout all my career did the very same thing to me. They made me stay within certain boundaries, and it’s because they believed that they knew better, and why? Because someone had given them a title.

They’d spent years acquiring knowledge and had spent a long time climbing that career ladder. And of course they had more knowledge and “expertise” in a particular field, but that didn’t make them better than my gut.

People’s credentials don’t make your ideas invalid. Degrees don’t make the bearers immune to making mistakes. It just meant that they had their way and I had mine.

It’s My Life! And It’s Now Or Never!

When it comes to your life, there’s absolutely no question. No one knows better than you.

Your boss telling you that you can’t do your side-hustle… f*ck them. That’s their problem.

Your business partner telling you that you have to stay in the business or else it’s not going to work, that’s the business’s problem. There aren’t systems and procedures in place to allow you to work on something else, but there could be.

Every relationship or business you are ever in needs to give you space to grow.

If you don’t have space, you’ll stagnate. You’ll wither away and no one will notice you’ve been there. Your boss, your teacher, your business partner don’t know better about your life than your own intuition and mental clarity.

Other people don’t know better because they do not know how you want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/what-do-i-want-to-do-with-my-life/. Try and fail.

I watched Batman Begins the other day. It’s one of my favourite Batman films, and I’m a very critical Batman fan. Those film have got to be damn good!

Remember those immortal words from Alfred, “Why do we fall, Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves back up.” Perfectly said.

The other people in our life don’t know we think like that. Our partners don’t want us to fall because they think we will hurt ourselves too much. We won’t. We will pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and try again. No one knows better.

 When was the last time you made a really terrible decision? I bet you can’t think of one. Even if you can, wasn’t it easy to learn from? Couldn’t you easily say, “This is why I made the wrong call, and here’s how I can make the right one next time.” There is no downside.

By the way, for the formula to make better decisions, check out episode 417 https://www.excellence-expected.com/417 of The 7 Minute Mentor.

If you other want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now. 

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to excellence-expected.com/aweber http://excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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421 - From Potential Criminal to Prosperous Business Owner - Forget what They Say

June 5, 2018

I was 10 years old, sitting in class.

I was a curious inquisitive child. My grandma always tells me that I get bored easily. My mind wanders. I can’t keep my handwriting neat because I’m always on to the next thought.

This affliction of curiosity made me a bit of a troublemaker. I tried to move at a faster pace than my teachers and they did not like that.

That’s why I dropped out of college. It wasn’t moving fast enough. I was just wasting my time.

“Mrs Teacher” didn’t get that. She didn’t understand that I was just a curious young lad with an insatiable appetite. 

So, in front of the whole class, she stood me up and told me, “Mark, if you carry on like this, you will go nowhere. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that you are a potential criminal.”

A teacher told a 10-year-old boy who just wanted to learn more that he was a potential criminal. Unbelievable.

You can hear me talk more about this story in podcast episode 421 of The 7 Minute Mentor. https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

Who’s To Blame?

I went home and told my mum. She’s from Barnsley, and not exactly known for her subtlety or tact. She went around to the school to have a “quiet little word”, as she put it, with Mrs Teacher.

I’m telling you this story because I want you to know one thing – my teacher was just having a bad day.

She had 24 loud and raucous kids to manage. Sure, that’s her job, but no one knows what else was going on in her life. When I was about 10 years old she told me I was a potential criminal, but who knows where that really came from? 

For a long time, I didn’t understand that. I let her words impact me. She hadn’t realised that she had given a child an insecurity complex, a mindset that hindered my learning and achievement because I thought being too curious would lead me to a life in the gutter. 

I let it hold me back for a long time. Too long. 

Shrug It Off

To fix yourself https://www.excellence-expected.com/edge/, you have to learn to shrug off the words and sentiments that don’t matter from people that ultimately don’t matter either.

There are countless people out there who are constantly insecure and jealous. I was one of them while I was running my first business. To be completely honest, I was in an unhappy place in my personal life. I became angry and resentful. Lots of people are like that, and they’ll say things that they don’t really mean in a moment of angry weakness.

So what do we do with that? Do we accept the fact that they might just be having a bad day, or are we going to let what they say affect us and hold us back?

The first step to fixing yourself is understanding that words will not damage you. Words don’t matter. Actions matter. Don’t let what other people say bother you. Be understanding and forgiving of people who are in a bad place and are taking it out on you.

I don’t give a shit what anyone says about me unless I know their heart is in the right place and they’re actually trying to help me.

Words do not matter. Become bulletproof.

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