414 - The Boldness Factor

May 25, 2018

To escape the Lifestyle Prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/, you will need to be bold.

Rick Clemons https://rickclemons.com/ is a great friend of mine and a member of my mastermind. He is the world’s foremost expert in making bold moves. In his words, success comes easier to those who live their life (un)closeted.

How can (un)closeting yourself help you escape your own lifestyle prison?

I talk more about this in podcast episode 414 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

(Un)closet Yourself

If you are defined by your job or by what you do in your business, you are in your closet.

Check out Rick’s podcast: https://rickclemons.com/podcast-episodes/.

Getting out of your closet means making yourself you again. Own every action you take. Project a sense of you into everything you do.

I made a lot of bold moves last year. 2017 was my year of Yes. I said yes to everything. I spoke all over the world. My business grew a lot. I left Hacksaw. I make a lot of bold moves in my personal life as well.

Our designer, Daniel, left to pursue a freelance career. Instead of recruiting another designer, we made bolder, bigger moves for Podcast Website to serve our members even better. I’m telling you this because I want you to know me. You trust me more because of that.

I had to get out of my closet, and you’ve got to get out of yours.

Are You Ready to Make Your Move?

Our theme recently has been being what you want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/what-do-i-want-to-do-with-my-life/, instead of defining yourself by what you do. We’ve talked about being trapped in a Lifestyle Prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/ – the prison that builds itself around you when you find some success and your lifestyle rises, but then you realise your life currently isn’t fulfiling you like it used to.

Once you have decided what you want to be and you come up with a plan to escape your Lifestyle Prison, ask yourself, are you bold enough to make your next move?

It’s time to place your first stepping stone https://www.excellence-expected.com/404-secret-stepping-stones-to-a-more-fulfiling-life/. When that’s in place, it’s going to take boldness to lean out over the water and plant your foot on the first stone.

If you’re not happy where you are in your job or your business, it’s time to be bold.

It doesn’t have to be big and scary. It can be one little stepping stone. But your move needs to come from a place of boldness – of you, being unapologetically you. Honesty, transparency, personality, vulnerability. All these aspects of the True You can be the basis of the perfect decision of what to do next. If you define yourself instead by what you do, you’ll base your next decision on what you are currently doing. That’s a perfect way to stay stuck in a decades-long rut.

If we had taken the “defined by what you do” approach with Podcast Websites, we’d have had a very difficult time.

Out of 2017 we had a load of amazing new products and developments waiting to be built, and then, BOOM, we lost an integral team member.

Had we made decisions based on where we were then, we would have made the wrong ones. Instead, we based our decisions on what we want to be, and now we’ve moved the business from its infancy into maturity (E-Myth Revisited).

What’s your boldness factor?

What do you want to be? https://www.excellence-expected.com/what-do-i-want-to-do-with-my-life/

To make this transformation, you must come from a place of boldness.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoachingon the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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413 - “How Are You, Mark?”

May 24, 2018

You know what really pisses me off?

When you ask someone who’s got their own business, “How are you doing?”… and you can see a subtle light of excitement in their eye as they inhale for their triumphant mic-drop…

“Busy.”

F*ck right off.

I’m sorry, but I can’t stand it.

Why do we all think “busy” is an acceptable answer?

I talk more about this in podcast episode 413 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

I come up to you, wanting to connect, to get to know you as a friend. I want some insight into what your life is like right now. Instead I get a guarded, insecure conversation-stopper which entitles you to sigh or groan and hints to me that my very presence near you is a distraction from your mountain of responsibility.

People wear their busyness like a badge of honour. It’s insane. You’re not a better person because your business is chaotic.

Busyness is Not Cool

As Tim Ferriss pointed out: "A lack of time is a lack of priorities."

Would you proudly answer “How are you?” with, “Oh, well, right now I’m completely incapable of keeping my life and business from falling apart without never-ending struggle.”?

If you are defined by what you do https://www.excellence-expected.com/396-mays-theme-beginning-to-build-your-lifestyle-prison-escape-plan-be-what-you-want-to-be/, then it makes sense to think that being busy makes you a better person. If what you do is who you are, then doing more of it makes you more secure in your identity, right?

Saying you’re busy like that’s the goal is a reaction to an inner insecurity. We feel like frauds, so we want to defend ourselves from any accusations that we are not doing everything we can to make up for our own lack of self-worth.

The Antidote to Busyness

Look, I understand that it’s often accurate. Entrepreneurship is hard. We often feel run down. But it’s not the goal!!

There is an alternative.

If you’re constantly pushed to the edge of your ability to manage things, you need to reflect.

You’re not constantly busy because you don’t have enough time in the day. Elon Musk has the same number of hours in his day, and I dare say he’s probably getting just a little bit more done than you, isn’t he?

It’s amazing how much of the stuff we do isn’t actually moving the needle on our businesses. It might all seem important, but most of it can just be left alone.

Elon and other super-successful people have perfected the art of prioritisation.

Prioritising means saying “no” to things you want to do or you feel pressured to do.

If you want to be freer, start saying no to everything that isn’t actually contributing to your goals. Identify the truly important and get them done first!

Shift Up a Gear

Stop telling yourself you’re busy.

I think, therefore I am.

You’re putting this sh*t on yourself.

I’m guilty of all this too! It’s probably why I’m pissed. I’m embarrassed by all the times I’ve answered the question with “busy”, because I know it’s a cop out.

It’s like you’re trying to go 70 miles an hour in 2nd. You can do it, but you’re running the engine into the ground.

Do you ever feel like you’re running yourself into the ground?

What if you shifted into the next gear, and then the next one, and then the next one?

Shifting into the next gear means shifting into the next mindset.

See busyness for the weakness it is. It’s a sign that something important is either not getting done, or there are terrible inefficiencies in your business.

Answer Properly

“How are you?”

“I’m alright. It’s a bit crazy in work right now, but I’m keeping sane with my photography. Still trying to learn Jurassic Park on the piano, too. I tell you what, it’s turned into my Everest, that song! I’ll get it one day. How about you?”

Much better.

If you’re in your Lifestyle Prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison/, what you do defines you. You will answer ‘busy’, because that is all that you have got.

Here’s how you break out of it.

I write every day in my 6-minute diary an affirmation that breaks the busy trap.

I write: “I am on top of this”.

I think, ‘Yeah, you’re busy, Mark, but you’re not a heart surgeon, are you?’

Escaping your Lifestyle Prison all starts with a decision to change your mindset. Commit to focusing on what you are, and let go of your attachment to what you do.

Forget about your busy badge of honour. No one cares if you’re busy. Have a think and come up with a better answer than the smug, brain-dead conversation killer you’ve gotten used to.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem. 

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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412 - Share Your Mistakes, They Inform Your Being, Forever

May 23, 2018

Have you ever f*cked up?

I have.

Until about a year ago I was a mad, egotistical guy. I didn’t want to make any mistakes or admit I was ever wrong.

Let’s be honest, humility is hard for most entrepreneurs.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 412 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

We want to be proud of what we do and who we are. There’s nothing wrong with that, but there’s a downside. If you’re too proud to admit your mistakes, you’re losing out on perhaps your most valuable assets.

Learn From Your Mistakes

Our mistakes inform every decision.

Your mistakes track and follow you all along your path to being what you want to be.

They are a necessary part of every step. If you don’t accept them, you won’t be able to learn from them.

Sharing your mistakes is the bridge between attracting your tribe and the concept of defining yourself by what you are instead of what you do.

It bridges the gap because f*ck ups are an inevitable part of what you are, and if you embrace them, they make you better.

Every little kick in the teeth can nudge you back in the right direction. All the honest mistakes you’ve made define who you have become. They are valuable. They contribute to you. They accumulate into a massive asset called “experience”.

Opening up about your mistakes helps you to see that you are not defined by what you do.

Then you realise you’re more defined by what you learn.

Every misstep can inform the whole rest of your life. You take it with you. What you learn from a failed accountancy firm can help you make a success of your new business teaching trumpet to teenagers!

You’re only human. You’re going to make mistake, and you’re going to make way more than necessary if you don’t learn from them. That’s why humility is powerful. It opens you up to the lessons lurking behind every mistake.

Don’t Try To Be Superman

Superman started off relatively underpowered. He could only leap over tall buildings and lift heavy stuff.

As comic books progressed and the character aged, they added new powers and made him stronger and stronger to the point where he destroyed a solar system with a super-sneeze.

People got bored.

You can’t have a story where the hero is completely unstoppable, so the writers created Superman’s famous weakness – kryptonite.

The point is this: stop thinking your mistakes put people off you. On the contrary, they make you interesting. Open up. People don’t trust someone who appears to be absolutely perfect with no weaknesses. We can tell you’re hiding something.

We’ve got to be humble as entrepreneurs, as fallible human beings doing business with other fallible human beings.

People Will Be Nicer Than You Think

People don’t simply hate everyone who makes a mistake.

What they really can’t stand is someone who made a mistake and then covered it up.

If you make a mistake and don’t own it, you become known as the kind of person who does that. It’s a small world. People talk. You can’t hide your flaws forever and if you don’t own them, they’ll come out in some other way and cause some damage.

Every mistake we make tracks us throughout our journey in one of two forms: a secret (liability) or a lesson (asset).

You’ll quickly learn that people are very understanding and forgiving of you if you handle your mistakes in an honourable way. We are all human, and we know it. If you f*ck up and own up to it, people usually forgive you. Even if a mistake is too catastrophic to forgive, it will help you a lot to be open about what happened and do everything you can to set things right.

You’re Not What You Do, and You’re Not Your Mistakes

If you define yourself by what you do, you’ll feel the need to hide your mistakes. You can’t let anyone know that you did something wrong, can you? Not if what you do is everything you are!

If you define yourself by what you are https://www.excellence-expected.com/396-mays-theme-beginning-to-build-your-lifestyle-prison-escape-plan-be-what-you-want-to-be/ instead, then your mistakes don’t weigh on you nearly so much. So what if you did something a little stupid? What you do is transient, right?

Who you are is untouched by mistakes. You can take your lesson, share it with the world, and move on.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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411 - Become Lucky, By Being You

May 22, 2018

I spoke in front of a bunch of graduates at Santander recently.

They bring me in every now and then to get the kids coming out of their corporate training schemes all fired up and in the right mind-set.

Santander is a huge, intimidating corporation.

It doesn’t make any difference. I’m still me.

I stand in front of the sea of expectant faces with Bon Jovi or DC Comics on my T-shirt. I swear. I don’t censor myself. I don’t edit who I am. I’m exactly the same with them as I am with you.

I get a lot of comments that my sessions are the best of the whole day.

I’m not bragging. My talks don’t have the impact they do just because I’m a bloody great speaker (although I clearly am!). They have impact because no one else is actually being themselves to these kids!

There really isn’t a lot of competition out there in being yourself. Hear me talk more about this in podcast episode 411 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/

What Would You Have People Say About You?

I asked the grads this question: “Do you want to be the person who says ‘You’re so lucky’ to someone, or do you want to be the person who hears ‘You’re so lucky’ from other people?”

When you start to be who you really, truly are, you start hearing people comment on how lucky you are.

New and wildly unexpected opportunities start coming your way without you seeming to be working any harder. People suddenly start thinking you’ve got a rabbit’s foot tucked away in your pants!

People say it to me all the time. “Aren’t you a lucky sod, Mark?”

Not really, no. I just am who I am. And I work f*cking hard too!

Deny Yourself and You Lose

I’m a big fan of taking time off when you need it. Just now I spent about an hour on my Nintendo Switch, throwing Mario around in a go-kart. It’s the middle of the day, but I needed to recharge.

Other days I need to pound out the work. A few weeks ago I was in the office at 6 am and left at 10 pm. Needs must.

I know myself. I know what I have to get done to move the needle, and I also know when I need to unplug and recuperate.

If you refuse to embrace what you are and everything about you, you’ll either resist the work you need to do and end up being lazy, or you’ll resist recharging your batteries when you need to and you’ll burn out.

Being defined by who you are https://www.excellence-expected.com/396-mays-theme-beginning-to-build-your-lifestyle-prison-escape-plan-be-what-you-want-to-be/ (and not what you do) means accepting all your quirks, your needs, your strengths and your weaknesses. It’s as if you’ve become aligned, so that everything in you is moving in the same direction. That’s why you start being “lucky”.

When you embrace the entirety of what you are you can work the crazy long hours and you can take time off whenever you like to play Mario Kart. You can do whatever the hell you want. You’re not defined by what you’re doing. You’re defined by how you are, who you are, and how you feel.

Say Yes

I don’t bother with New Year’s resolutions. I don’t think they work. But I do set the “tone” of the year.

At the start of this year, 2018, I set my big-picture guidelines:

1. Play big.
1. No poison.

I want to be at a higher level by the end of this year, so I’m going to play big. I’m also not going to let into my life anything that makes me feel how I don’t want to feel. That’s poison.

Last year, in 2017, I also set a big-picture guideline for the year:

“Say yes.”

By the end of the year, people were coming up to me, amazed, asking me, “How the hell are you doing all this? How did you get all these amazing speaking gigs? How do you fit it in around your growing business?”…… “You’re so lucky.”

No, I’m not.

I chose me. I chose my audience. I chose my team. And I put those things above everything else in work.

You become lucky by being you. Ask yourself: Do you want to be the person who says, “You’re so lucky,” or do you want to be the person who constantly hears, “You’re so lucky"

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/ - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://www.excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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410 - Attract Your Crowd By Sharing What Others Won’t

May 21, 2018

Who is my favourite DC character?

What’s my sole reason for playing the piano?

What’s my giant, stupid dog’s human name?!

If you’ve followed me for a while you already know the answers to these questions. I’m all about The Flash, I’m desperate to learn the Jurassic Park theme song, and my big canine lump is called Pete.

I’ve asked the same questions at speaking engagements, and there’s always a few people who happily call out the answers. My audience knows me.

What does this have to do with you?

Marketing and sales is about getting people to know, like, and trust you. Sharing your personality, your loves and hates and hobbies, is the easiest and fastest way to achieve that.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 410 of The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/ 

**Why People Need to Know, Like, & Trust You**

I come back to this concept a lot because it is crucial to your success. You wouldn’t buy anything from someone you didn’t know, like, or trust, would you?

In an industry like cars, you don’t have to absolutely love the car salesman to buy from him, but if there’s another guy you get on with better, you’re probably going to buy through the latter just to get him the commission. At the very least you need to trust the person that you’re buying from, and trust that the car is going to work as advertised.

Having people know, like, and trust you is even more important for a SaaS businesses or other types of online entrepreneurship than it is for a car salesman, plumbers or other traditional careers. Why? Because we are there all the time, and there are countless other options for people out there on the web.

There’s most likely going to be someone else selling exactly what you’re selling. People have access to more information than they ever have before and we’re all more discerning as a result.

You absolutely have to [give people a chance to know, like, and trust you]. And the only way to do that is by sharing what other people won’t. Not to say you share everything, of course not, but you do have to let people into your life.

Some people won’t like you. Plenty of people don’t like me. I doubt I have many conservative Anglican Vicars among my listenership. Not many would put up with all the swearing.

So what? Who gives a sh*t?

It doesn’t matter who you push away, because being who you are attracts your tribe. A tribe implies not everyone on the planet is a member, right? Some people are not a natural fit. That’s a good thing. Let them go. Screen them out by being unapologetically you.

Take Some Toys from Your Personal Box & Put Them in Your Professional Box

When I do my free coaching sessions you’ll see me wearing my Motorhead or Bon Jovi T-shirt. You’ll see my piano in the background. I’ve got a Flash figurine. I’ve got a Superman light. I’ve got a much-too-big stack of comics on display (and I don’t apologise!).

I’m just being me. Is it professional? Who cares? Will it attract my “thousand true fans”? Yes, it bloody will.

You’ve got to move from what you do being the thing that define you, and towards what you are, how you are, and who you are as the thing that defines you.

Talk The Same Way You Talk to Your Friends

The only way to truly market yourself, to truly set yourself apart from all the noise out there is by keeping your authentic voice – the little quips, phrases, and verbal habits that make you sound like you.

I got called out for saying “I’m going to love you and leave you” on my coaching calls. Apparently, it sounds like I want to have sex with someone and then head straight for the fire escape.

Well, sorry. I’m not going to stop using that phrase. Where I was brought up, it means, “Right, I love you a lot, but I’ve got to go.” I’ve used it all my life and so do my old friends. It’s a part of how I talk.

Don’t edit yourself too much, or there’ll be nothing much left of you.

Be Unapologetically You

You can’t share the same old things everyone else shares and expect to stand out.

No one cares how hard you’re hustling this week. Sure, I sometimes post on Instagram saying, “Look at me, I’m at work at 6 o’clock!” No harm in doing it every now and then. Problem is that it’s been done to death. If that sort of thing is all people see of you, they’re not really seeing you.

If they’re not really seeing you, they can’t know or trust you.

Be more than “the entrepreneur”, “the business owner”, “the CEO”. The internet is already flooded with those.

But there’s no-one else out there being you.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching/  on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to https://excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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409 - What Do People Really Think of Me?

May 18, 2018

Until about 5 years ago I was grossly concerned with how people perceived me.

It stifled my success and held me back in all sorts of ways.

Think back to a decision you made in the past that seemed really big at the time of making it. Chances are, it didn’t stay that way. Chances are, you were building it up in your head, worrying what other people would say or think. Did it turn out to be as important as you first thought?

Stop giving a sh*t.

I talk more about this in podcast episode 409 of The 7 Minute Mentor

Get Over It

Look, I get it. Your personal brand is what people say about you when you’re not in the room, and that affects you and your business. I’m not saying being a hated outcast is the same as being a loved celebrity.

But trying to be a loved celebrity is a sure-fire way to fail to be one.

It’s like being the kid who’s trying really hard to be popular at school. You know the type. He’s too eager, laughs at too many jokes, and has a generally creepy vibe.

You create a creepy vibe too when you follow your impulse to maximise what other people think about you. It leads exactly where you don’t want – to people thinking less of you.

Get over it.

Just do you, and let the chips fall where they may.

Follow your own inner ethical compass, do what you think is right, but be honest and don’t try to please everyone.

There’s nothing more refreshing to people than that.

Can You Please Everyone?

Herbert Bayard Swope, a Pulitzer Prize winning reporter, once said, "I can't give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time."

Speaking your mind will offend some people.

People who can’t stand comic books don’t like that I love them so much. People who’s stomachs tighten when they hear swearing won’t listen to my podcast.

And that’s okay.

If you’re authentic there will be hordes of people who do love what you say, and they are going to love it precisely because it’s not for everyone.

You will offend people. You will make some tough decisions that will make people mad.

Accept it.

Full-Time Offendees

Some people love to be offended.

They are just “the type” that love to judge other people and take offence at anything they can.

That’s what they do. They love it, and they are good at it. A day without an outrage is a bad day for them. Let them stew in their angry world. If they hurl insults at you, let them float past you. They can’t hurt you.

How to Fill Your Life With People Who Matter

About four years ago I made a decision:

I only focus on people I can add value to and who can add value to me.

Maybe that sounds dismissive to you. I guess, in a way, it is.

But think of this – no matter what you do, you’ll have to “dismiss” the vast majority of people. With 7+ billion out there, you’re kind of forced to be selective.

So…what’s your selection criteria?

Is it whoever happens to be near you at the moment, or who used to be near you in the past?

Why not choose to associate with people based on how much good can be created by knowing each other? What else makes sense?

All those people you can’t help and who can’t help…they have their own people. Let them go and form their own groups, where they might find people that are better for them. They are not your people, so to speak. Focus on your people.

Brace Yourself

If you walk the authentic path, you’ll get plenty of pushback. People tend to react when you “step out of line”.

Be what you want to be. It doesn’t matter what anyone else on the planet thinks about you.

It’s not their life. It’s yours, and you only get one.

Make the best of it.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to http://excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

 

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408 - Be Vulnerable, Be Open

May 17, 2018

Escaping your Lifestyle Prison takes time.

To make it work, you have to make the most of what you have in front of you.

Some people assume you have to throw everything under the bus when it’s time to make a big change and pursue your own personal happiness.

They’ve watched too many movies where the protagonist triumphantly says, “F*ck you!” to the boss and struts out of the office. Sounds fun, but if you do that three times you’ve alienated potentially hundreds of useful connections (counting everyone your boss and co-workers know in their own circles).

Question is…are you willing to be open, and to be vulnerable?

I talk more about this in podcast episode 408 of The 7 Minute Mentor

Why Most People Reject Vulnerability & Shoot Themselves In The Foot

If what you do is transient (which it is), you will make transitions many times in your life. If you take a steaming crap on your old associates every time you do that, where do you think that’ll leave you in twenty years?!

The mainstream believes that what you do is paramount, not what you are. This leads them to think there is something you can “do” that will be your final destination of happiness. That means working in a job that’s not this ideal utopian position, then it’s justifiable to get angry and resentful at your boss and sometimes your co-workers too.

We know better.

We know what you do changes, but what you are will last across all those changes.

So to be a more powerful force, you need to come from the solid ground of what you are.

Most people don’t do it for one reason – it requires vulnerability.

You Are Always Vulnerable During Change

A lot of people don’t realise that being vulnerable is a necessary part of making a transition to a better place (You knew there would be a catch.)

You’ll feel the vulnerability of not knowing if your income can be sustained over future months, and the vulnerability of letting people know that you want to change your circumstance, which risks their disapproval.

You also need to admit you don’t know what you’re doing…exactly! Maybe you’ll need to admit you want help.

If the thought of opening up like that makes your stomach scrunch, imagine how it would make an employee feel if you said, “Hey, look. I know I’m your boss, but can you help me with this problem I have?”

Do you think you’ve made an ally or an enemy with that request?

Unless you’ve chosen a predatory psychopath to open up to, you’ve made a strong ally!

The Vulnerability of Your Interests

A milder vulnerability is where you start turning colleagues into friends by opening up about your interests.

It stops you from being “just” the boss, or “just” the lead developer, or whatever you are. When you open up and talk about your loves, you become a more complete, down-to-earth and relatable person. That simultaneously makes you a little more exposed and a little stronger.

Being open means you will attract more support. People will like and trust you more, and people want to support people they like and trust.

The Vulnerability of Your Problems

Maybe you got buy-in from your co-workers, partners, bosses or employees already, but they need to see that you’re not just a bit tired of the grind and you’re riding a one-stop gravy train to greener pastures.

You know your journey is tough, but they never will if you only show them a brave face. If you’re facing a problem, try opening up about it, and see if people don’t feel compelled to help you strategise.

Being open about your problems means saying tough things like, “I need help,” “I’m having a bad day,” or, “What do you think I should do about [embarrassing problem]?”.

Speaking that way automatically sets people’s mental gears to work to come up with potential solutions to share with you. Anyone in your company might know someone through friends or family that could help you, and you would never know if you had stayed the closed, stoic, “Professional Box” coworker.

Be vulnerable. Be open. It’ll accelerate your progress.

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