407 - A Quick Way to Become “You” at Work

May 16, 2018

Start practising being you.

Now!

Being “you” opens up opportunities in business you would never have guessed.

Authenticity is almost intoxicating to people. We can’t get enough genuine connection. And when they feel like they know the real you (even a little bit), they tend to want to help you on your journey.

Guess what, I’ve got a quick fix way for you to become truly yourself at work! I talk all about this in podcast episode 407 of The 7 Minute Mentor

The Massive Cost of Professionalism

In episode 398, I talked about what it means to work within your “Professional Box”, how you’re hiding your real self and preventing anyone from really knowing, liking, or trusting you. The more polished and guarded you are when you’re being “professional”, the worse it is.

What you’re never told is that being in your Professional Box means you miss out on a lot of money! That box is not designed for your success. It’s designed to make you a good, polite cog in the machine.

Once you say f*ck that to your Professional Box, and truly start being yourself, things change in interesting ways.

The Quick Way to Become “You”

As you look around your workplace, remember: All these people are people too!

It’s a joke. As you’re walking around, keeping yourself to yourself and hiding behind your professional mask, everyone else around you is doing the same thing!

The moment you take the lead and starts connecting _face-to-face_ (rather than mask-to-mask), the people around you start following your lead. As I said, people are desperate for real connection.

Your co-workers all want to talk about their loves, their interests, and to connect with other people. Bring them out of their shell talking about your loves and interests.

Don’t think of them as co-workers that you _have_ to spend time with. Why not think of them as friends that you are lucky enough to spend 60% of your time with?

The Lucrative Business of Being Yourself

You would not believe how much work came my way because I started being open about my love for DC Comics.

Most people are so thrilled when they get to connect honestly with another human being that they are then more happy to give you a helping hand.

Start talking about what you love and you’ll be blown away by the amount of common ground you’ll discover with people.

I went to a mastermind a few weeks ago where I met Richard Tubb http://www.tubblog.co.uk/about-richard-tubb face-to-face for the first time. We sat down to a coffee and I discovered he was a massive comics guy too, and we ranted about Green Lantern for ages. We now have a solid friendship!

At Podcast Websites we’re getting European Regional Development Funding http://ec.europa.eu/regional_policy/en/funding/erdf. This means we can outsource some work and be compensated for half the cost. It’s a great program!

Steve, who worked with me on getting this funding, turned out to be into photography too! On our first meeting, I bought Steve a coffee, noticed he was using photography terms, and we spent the next 20 minutes talking photography. Then we spent 10 minutes filling out the paperwork to get the funding done. We now have a solid friendship!

That’s how you conduct a “business meeting” that’s fun and fosters genuine connection and the potential for lifelong friendships. Now, Steve and I go to the same camera club on Tuesday evenings.

Traditional thinking about professionalism would have told me that was the wrong place to bring up my hobby. Bullsh*t! If you don’t share and open up to people at work, you are leaving a heap of money on the table.

Colleagues vs Friends

People don’t want to work with “colleagues”.

People want to be part of a real community, a group that shares not only their desks but their lives.

They want real connection that feels stronger than a mere “alliance” (which is the best the Professional Box can give you).

For the rest of the week, try this: As you walk around your workplace, remind yourself that everyone you see is an individual full of opinions and interests and fears. See if you can coax some of that out by sharing something from your own life, instead of talking only work and weather.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

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406 - The Secret to Being? Having Fun!

May 15, 2018

Did you set up your business so you could live every day as a tedious grind?

I bet not.

If your business is no longer fun for you, you’re doing something wrong.

You might say, “But Mark, business is supposed to be a tedious, soul-crushing grind.”

I’m here to tell you, f*ck that.

That’s like saying marriage is supposed to be a tedious grind. No. It’s not okay, and it’s not how it has to be. I talk more about this in podcast episode 406 of The 7 Minute Mentor

Sure, any business requires you put in a lot of work. Sometimes the work is tough and sometimes it is going to be tedious. But that is not the goal. It’s only a minor part of the whole game if you’re playing it right.

Taking from the classic book E-Myth Revisited, entrepreneurs tend to start by being very passionate about the business they’re creating. Passion is a part of the entrepreneurial journey. At one point, though, things change. Your role becomes more administrative and less creative. You stop being a technician and a tinkerer.

If your role in your company has changed and you have stopped having any fun, it’s time to change something.

Fun-filled Success

Take Richard Branson for example. The man has taken many, many risks. Some of them seem crazy in retrospect, from Virgin Vodka to Virgin Brides https://www.theguardian.com/business/2014/oct/06/sir-richard-branson-failures-vigin-cola-brides

Some of his risks were total failures. Some of them became astronomical wins. Some of them were probably boring flops that just fizzled out without any drama. But through it all, Branson had fun. You can see it oozing out of him when he’s interviewed.

Fun-filled success is not just a reality for Branson. It’s yours, too, if you choose it.

If you don’t find your business fun, you are in the wrong business.

When Entrepreneurs Fail

Entrepreneurs starts businesses from love.

They fall in love with an idea or a problem and start working hard (and joyfully) to make the idea a reality or figure out a solution to the problem.

Then, tragically, they start identifying with what they are doing.

They start asking themselves if this is what they want to do. They don’t realise they’re asking the wrong question altogether.

They should ask themselves what they want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/be Maybe they should change what they’re doing, maybe not.

Maybe they just forgot to have any fun.

Resentment & Burning Bridges

Somewhere along the way the passion fades. People react to that in strange ways.

When you identify with what you want to do, then you find that what you are doing is not fulfiling you, resentment and regret can raise their poisonous heads.

You’ve forgotten that what you do is transient. There is no need to cling to it any longer than is necessary.

If you let the resentment build until you just have to get away, you’ll rush the process and burn a ton of bridges.

Instead, notice your discontent early. The earliest warning sign is that you’re no longer having fun. You’re probably at least a few months away from becoming resentful at that point. You have a lot of time.

If you can’t fix the feeling in your immediate environment and you decide you’ll need to transition into something fresh, begin laying stepping stones https://www.excellence-expected.com/404 early while making the most of what you have already.

Ignore the feeling and you might find yourself eventually walking away from a bunch of bitter employees and partners who are more than happy to see the back of you.

Or you can listen to the early warning signs of the Lifestyle Prison, begin the transition process as early as you can, and one day you’ll be waving goodbye to a group of old friends who will be happy to help you in your next stage if they can.

Fun: Your True North

Use fun as your true north.

If I ever stop having any fun in my business I stop, I look at the reason, and I address it as best I can.

If you’re not having fun, something needs to change.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to http://excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex. 

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405 - Temporary Fulfilment, That’s OK, Right?

May 14, 2018

Fulfilment is a process, not an event.

When I grew tired of the successful agency I had built and realised I was trapped in my own lifestyle https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison, I wanted out.

Unfortunately, I’m not Thanos. I couldn’t do it with a snap of my fingers.

It took time.

So how do you keep yourself happily moving forward, day after day? I talk more about this in podcast episode 405 of The 7 Minute Mentor

Can Fulfilment Ever Be Permanent?

Stable fulfilment will only be achieved if you strive to become what you want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/be, not what you want to do. But in order to make that mindset shift, there’s one concept you need to understand.

Temporary fulfilment is fine.

In fact, it’s a necessary part of the process.

What you do is transient, after all. What you choose next ain’t gonna be what you do for the rest of your life!

What you do next is just a stepping stone https://www.excellence-expected.com/404

The Entrepreneur’s Playfulness

If you’re an entrepreneur, your motivation is probably passion-based. That doesn’t mean you don’t know how to grind. God, you know how to grind! But it does mean you’re not willing to sit and swallow a tedious, tail-chasing existence for nothing more than a sense of duty.

You’re more aware of and motivated by the sense of meaning you get when you’re exactly where you should be, when you should be there. When things click together and you’re in flow.

That state of engagement is not an on-off switch. It’s not a permanent destination. You’ll feel it in little ways throughout your life.

You’ll succeed faster if you help motivate yourself with temporary fulfilment.

Make your escape from your lifestyle prison fun.

How I Left The Corporate Trap Using Temporary Fulfilment

When I was younger, I worked in a pensions corporation in Leeds. I hated it. I needed to get out. I needed to take a step in the direction of what I wanted to be.

How did I know what to do?

I didn’t worry too much about that! I just started working as an apprentice electrician for my Dad. It wasn’t what I wanted to do long term, of course not, but that didn’t matter. It fulfiled me at the time.

I got to work on technical problems. I worked with my hands while challenging my brain. I would come home tired and happy.

Step number one was taking my foot off the corporate peddle. Step number two was having the space to allow the next step to reveal itself while I kept myself busy.

It was fulfilling because it was progress, not perfection.

How to Choose The Next Step

You can live a life that gets better and better over time. You’ll love that process because fulfilment can come in little ways with every step.

Choose your next step with the question, “What do I want to be?”

After reminding yourself of that, you can ask, “What can I do next that will move me even closer towards becoming who I want to be?”

When we closed down my agency, Hacksaw, one of my friends and co-founders got a more “ordinary” job at another agency. Some people might look at that and call it a step backward, but it wasn’t.

What he does didn’t define him. How he wants to feel defined him. Therefore, he did something that gave him the fulfilment he needed at that time. In the future, he might move on. Who knows? But he was not defined by what he did, which freed him up to try something different.

Follow Your Fulfilment, Starting Now

Fulfilment is often temporary because what you want to do is transient.

Instead of thinking about how trapped you are, ask yourself what would give you some fulfilment right now. It could be a little side project like my DC Comics podcast that eventually evolved into the 7 Minute Mentor.

My agency started out as very fulfiling to me. At some point, though, I moved from a creative role to a managing role. I’m naturally a technician-type who loves making things, so I gradually lost the sense of fulfilment I once had in the company. My need to create stuff wouldn’t go away, so I had to find a temporary way to meet that need by starting a hobby podcast.

The question is always: “Will this thing I’m considering bring me one step closer to fulfilment?”

Not all the way. Not halfway. Only one step closer.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

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404 - Secret Stepping Stones to a More Fulfiling Life

May 11, 2018

Once you’ve accepted money is important https://www.excellence-expected.com/402 and you [know what your figure is https://www.excellence-expected.com/403 to live the life you want to live, you can start laying down the stepping stones you need to maintain it as you move into a more fulfilling life.

The idea of the stepping stones is that you can only lay them one at a time.

First, you find a crossable part of the river (i.e. your vision needs to be achievable). Then you lay your first stepping stone (planning). Then you step on it (taking action).

And only then, when you have your balance, you stop, remind yourself of where you’re going, and look around at the river bed by your feet to figure out how to lay the next step.

I talk more about this concept in episode 404 of  The 7 Minute Mentor https://www.excellence-expected.com/7-minute-mentor/ 

Crossing The River To Your New Life

You don’t cross a river by building one massive, big-ass bridge by yourself! It would take too long, and you’ve got more places to go once you reach the other side!

Instead, you need to lay stepping stones.

It’s up to you how big each step is. It’s up to you where you place your stones. All we need is to make it achievable.

With each step you first need to get your balance. You become stable. Then you look back up at the other side of the river what you want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/400, then you look down at the chaotic potential right in front of you. This keeps you grounded and focused on the only thing you really have control over - **_the next step_**. Only then do you place the next stone and step onto it.

This is how you need think of your journey. One step at a time, but with the ultimate destination always in mind.

The Stepping Stone System

Each stepping stone is an action plan to incrementally replace your current income with income from your new project.

Instead of earning everything from one source, you’ll split your earnings between your current business (or job) and your new project.

Let’s say you’re currently taking home £5,000 a month. You’ve worked out that five grand is enough to maintain your lifestyle - I help you figure this out in episode 403 https://www.excellence-expected.com/403  Remember, your lifestyle prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison is only real if you believe you have to live on less than you are accustomed to in order to escape your unfulfiling work.

It’s not true. You can transition smoothly and never have less coming in than you are used to. All it takes is some planning.

First figure out what you want to be. That’s the other side of the river, your destination. Forget what you will specifically _do_ in order to get there. That’s only details. You only need the direction at this stage. What do you actually want to be? I share more about this in my blog post ‘What Do I Want To Do With My Life? - Becoming What You Want to Be Without Knowing What You Want To Do’ https://www.excellence-expected.com/what-do-i-want-to-do-with-my-life/ 

Once you have that written down, you place the first stepping stone. That stone represents an attainable revenue split with a realistic plan for making up the full amount.

Example: Replacing £5,000/month, One Step at a Time

Let’s say your lifestyle requires £5,000/month to comfortably maintain. Perhaps you decide you can probably earn £1,500 a month from your side-hustle in the next quarter. Attaining that will mean you’ll only need to earn £3,500 from your current income source to maintain your £5,000/month lifestyle.

Now, you reach over and plant a foot on the stepping stone. By that, I mean you get stuck into your side-hustle and work as much as you can to build it up from zero. Then, when it’s earning £1,500 a month, bring your other foot over onto the stepping stone, i.e. you cut back on your current way of earning to bring it down to £3,500, allowing you more time to devote to your side-hustle.

Congrats! You now have a split income, and you’re well on your way to transitioning to a more fulfilling life without your wallet or lifestyle even noticing!

Once you are stable again, you reassess, remind yourself of what you want to be, then look at the river bed - the opportunities and chaotic potential at your feet. Plan the next step. Let’s say you see an opportunity to add another £1,000 a month to your side-hustle income within the next two months. Great! Once you make that next step, you’ll be halfway across already.

Get Started!

This is the key to freedom. This is how you maintain the lifestyle that you and your family love without it becoming a prison for you. It’s a process, and you start can start your transition today.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday [live on Facebook]() ([https://www.facebook.com/mrasquith/]()) - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat https://www.excellence-expected.com/freecoaching on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

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403 - How Much Money Do You REALLY Need?

May 10, 2018

We’re in business to make money.

If you’re not making money, you’re not running a business. You’re pursuing a hobby. It’s that simple.

Once you have stopped pretending money doesn’t matter to you https://www.excellence-expected.com/402, it’s time to get specific about how much you need to aim for.  How much do you need to earn per month to keep living the life that you enjoy?

There are 3 steps to your planning you need to sort out before you can leave your lifestyle prison forever. I talk more about this in episode 403 of The 7 Minute Mentor

Step 1: Establish What You Want To Be

Where you are right now, the place that is comfortable but unfulfilling, is what I call the lifestyle prison https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison

You’ve got enough, but what you do on a day to day basis has stopped being enough for you. Maybe you’ve been doing it for 10 or 20 years and you’re simply bored. It’s okay to feel that way. In fact, it’s important we listen to our boredom, especially if it is chronic. It’s a signal that we are not living up to our full potential. So, if you’re bored, it’s time to go somewhere new. It’s time for a change.

Figure out where you need to go by defining what you want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/396 (e.g. happy, fulfilled, financially free, wealthy, in the outdoors, whatever it is for you).

Now you have a direction. But it’s not time to start charging ahead in that direction just yet. You have a few more calculations you need to do.

Step 2: Calculate Your Current Lifestyle Expenses

How much money you really need to live the life you want to live?

That’s right. The same comfort that I blame for holding you in prison is what you need to maintain if you’re going to maximise your chances of getting out.

Most people make their transitions to a better life by moving too fast and making cuts in their spending.

Others make cuts simply because they get conscious of their spending, judged themselves for falling for the “golden handcuffs”, and make the mistake of thinking that discomfort itself is now the moral thing to do. How short-sighted can you be? How is it moral to take away your energy from doing what you need to do?

If you make cuts to your lifestyle, your energy will wind up being divided, especially if you have a family. You’ll start resenting your new path fast.

Resentment is just going to lead you on a path back to where you used to be.

We’re not 21 anymore (well I’m not anyway!). We need more than bread and butter. But the second anything crops up that you used to be able to do, that you now consider to be outside of your new “heroic” budget, you’ll resent your whole plan.

If that happens 10 times (and it will), you’ll start to seriously doubt yourself. 50 more disappointments, particularly if it involves saying “no” to your spouse or children, and you can say goodbye to your dreams of your new fulfilling life.

Believe me, you’ll start to feel like the whole pursuit has become one big punishment to you AND your loved ones.

So...ask yourself...what are you earning? What do you want to earn? Be honest. You like taking your kids out, you like the cars in your garage, you like date night at a fancy restaurant. That’s all fine. Just don’t kid yourself. Whatever the figure is, you need to know it.

Write down: “I need to earn [X] per month to keep living the life that I enjoy.”

Step 3: Lay The First Stepping Stone

Instead of trying to break away in one step and making yourself a martyr, start laying down achievable stepping stones. Each stepping stone represents your income being incrementally replaced by your new hustle. I have created a specific, detailed process to getting this done over the past few years that I want to share with you. I want to do it justice, so I’ll go into full detail in my next post: Secret Stepping Stones to a More Fulfiling Life https://www.excellence-expected.com/404

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook - 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to http://excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

 

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402 - Stop Pretending That it’s Not About the Money

May 9, 2018

Cut the bull sh*t.

Stop pretending money doesn’t motivate you.

We are all money-motivated in some way or another. Do not shy away from it. Embrace it.

You need to be true to yourself, and that means thinking clearly and honestly about what money means to you. I talk more about this in episode 402 of The 7 Minute Mentor

Why Are We Embarrassed To Admit We Want Money?

Most of us were taught it’s wrong to want money. There’s a reason for that. People who are motivated only by money are out of balance and therefore make foolish decisions. But you can easily be unbalanced in the other direction, self-sabotaging by avoiding money when you can and denying that you even need it!

You are motivated by money, I don’t care who you are. You have other motivations besides that, and you’re very aware of them because they are the socially acceptable motivations you tell everyone about.

There are so many ‘entrepreneurs’ who, when asked “Why do you do what you do?”, they will reply with some bull sh*t answer like “I exist to add value.”

Sigh

Sure. So do I. I get it!

But let’s be honest. You’re also motivated by money - maybe a lot - and maybe that’s how it should be.

Why Being Broke is Selfish

We all have fiscal obligations. If we’re worried about money we cannot focus on adding any value.

Tech investors always tell founders to pay themselves a fair wage. Not silly amounts, but easily enough to cover their lifestyle. Why? Simple. They want the most out of their founders. A broke founder is a distracted founder.

Those super-smart investors know that if they have to choose between (a) an extra £50,000 in the company bank per year or (b) a CEO who’s completely comfortable and can devote all his attention to the company, the extra focus the CEO brings is much more valuable than £50k. That should tell you something about the importance of maintaining your lifestyle.

Little in life is more distracting than being in a financial hole.

If you say you “exist to add value,” earning enough to make you very comfortable should be your highest priority until you achieve it. Otherwise, you’re holding back the best of you that you can offer the world.

What Do You Want To Be, Financially?

I can’t stand it when people go full money-denial mode. They say, “I’m not money-motivated. Money doesn’t matter to me.”

Shut your face! Of course it matters to you.

If not, why don’t you give me your wallet and let me root around for whatever I want? Oh, what’s that? You don’t want to give me your wallet? Why’s that? Because you need that money to buy things with? Exactly.

My epic blog post in May is all about becoming who you want to be https://www.excellence-expected.com/what-do-i-want-to-do-with-my-life

I don’t believe anyone who claims they don’t want to be financially secure.

Financial security is like physical health. You’d have to be more than a little crazy not to want it.

Your “Security Figure” & Your “Enough Figure”

Your Security Figure is however much you need to be financially secure. You need to know that number. That’s the figure you have to maintain while you break out of your "lifestyle prison" https://www.excellence-expected.com/my-business-my-prison

The next milestone is your Enough Figure. This means you earn enough so that the issue of money is off the table for you. It’s done. No more problems in that area. What is that figure for you?

Once you have reached or surpassed your Enough Figure, you can pour all of your creative energy into whatever it is you want to do for the world. That’s the only time that you can provide the maximum value for other people as possible.

That’s why money is so important, and why it’s ethical to be motivated by it if you haven’t reached your Enough Figure yet.

For me, honestly, I’m not pursuing millions. I’ve built businesses in the past that succeeded. We’ve earned a lot of money and we’re earning a lot now, but I wouldn’t keep earning more if it meant sacrificing time with loved ones.

How you prioritise money should not be based on how uncomfortable everyone around you is made by the topic! How you prioritise money needs to be based on where you are in relationship to your Secure Figure and your Enough Figure.

If you can’t be honest with everyone else because you’re embarrassed to admit it, at least be honest with yourself.  

Money is important. Money f*cking matters. And that’s alright.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

By the way, I’m a big believer in email marketing and in having the best email marketing tool to help you grow your email list. That’s why I use AWeber and I’ve paired up with them to bring you a special offer – just head to http://excellence-expected.com/aweber and use code exex.

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401 - The Pursuit of Happiness or The Maintenance of Lifestyle?

May 8, 2018

I hope I’m not coming across as a total ponce. “Be what you want to be” sounds like it’s straight out of a bullsh*t personal development book.

Concepts like this are hard to put into action. They are more to do with a mindset shift.

But there is one thing you can do to become what you want to be. Pursue happiness.

Ask yourself, are you pursuing your happiness or simply maintaining your lifestyle?  I talk more about this in episode 401 of  The 7 Minute Mentor

Why Does Pursuing Happiness Work?

I talked in episode 397 (397 – Don’t Think Outside of It, LIVE Outside of the Box!) of The 7 Minute Mentor about how at 4 years-old, I wanted to dig up worms. At 16 my ambition was to be a rockstar. A few years later I wanted to own a design agency. Now I enjoy being a software company owner. Who the hell knows what my future self will do? You can’t predict where you’re meant to go next. That’s why pursuing happiness works.

Happiness a central path - a true north for your inner compass to point. Everything else is just the details - the terrain you trek through as you follow your compass.

How Do You Pursue Happiness?

The first time you wake up and dread going to work, make a note. Your inner compass is trying to tell you something. It’s signalling you’re ready for a change.

Why are you going to work, anyway? Do you only do it so you can buy the stuff you want? Or are you on a path that takes you progressively closer to happiness?

Don’t get me wrong - I’m not there yet myself. Maybe none of us ever get there 100%, but that’s okay. It’s the journey that feels so good, not just the destination.

Reflect & Improve

At the end of every week, ask yourself:

“What have I done this week that has made me less happy?”

Last week I asked myself that question and I realised I was unhappy about not having any time to do photography. I quickly did an analysis of where my time was going and where I might be able to recover some time.

Making more time was easy. I got a cleaner in to do some of my extra housework on the weekend. That freed up 2 hours, as if out of thin air! I took my camera out and had a great time during those 2 hours. And if you won’t hire a cleaner for two hours to make a little time for yourself, I would say your priorities are off (or you need some more disposable cash, fast!).

Living Life To The Fullest

Thinking about how you can live your life to the fullest means doing what you want to do.

Life is lived moment to moment. “Being happy” is achieved by filling as many of those moments with as much happiness as you possibly can.

Be happy in as many of the minutes of the day as you can, and be as happy as possible in those minutes.

Trust me, I know this isn’t easy. I’m a grumpy motherf*cker by nature.

But it’s not about snapping your fingers and being happier. It’s about steady upward progress.

If you make yourself just 1% happier every week, it won’t take long for the cumulative effects to kick in and you’ll start seeing a huge difference.

Listen to how you feel and take it as clues. Ask yourself questions about what you want to be “What do I want to do with my life?” – Becoming What You Want to Be Without Knowing What You Want to Do” every time you are about to change your circumstance or make a big decision. Will it make you happier? Will it add some fulfilment to your life? Will it help you be stronger?

When I quit my job in Leeds and sold myself for an extra couple of grand to another company in Sheffield, I convinced myself the extra money would solve how I felt inside.

I turned up to the new company offices and felt the exact same unhappiness.

That’s when I quit corporate forever.

Are You Pursuing or Just Maintaining?

On the path to where you want to be, are you pursuing your happiness or simply maintaining your lifestyle?

I don’t mean your lifestyle needs to be abandoned to pursue happiness properly. Far from it! In fact, it’s critical that you maintain your lifestyle in order to break out of the “lifestyle prison” My Business, My Prison - Excellence Expected, by Mark Asquith

To pull that off, we need to have a frank discussion about how you should prioritise money, and how you need to split your revenues so you can pull back on the stuff that’s draining you and transition smoothly into your new, more fulfilling life.

If you want help with solving your business problems then come along and join me at my free coaching sessions that I run every single Friday live on Facebook- 4pm UK, 11am Eastern, 8am Pacific. Together we can define, challenge and conquer your biggest problem.

Reserve your seat on the next free coaching session, now.

Don't forget, the more you expect from yourself, the more you WILL excel!

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