Start practising being you.
Being “you” opens up opportunities in business you would never have guessed.
Authenticity is almost intoxicating to people. We can’t get enough genuine connection. And when they feel like they know the real you (even a little bit), they tend to want to help you on your journey.
Guess what, I’ve got a quick fix way for you to become truly yourself at work! I talk all about this in podcast episode 407 of The 7 Minute Mentor
The Massive Cost of Professionalism
In episode 398, I talked about what it means to work within your “Professional Box”, how you’re hiding your real self and preventing anyone from really knowing, liking, or trusting you. The more polished and guarded you are when you’re being “professional”, the worse it is.
What you’re never told is that being in your Professional Box means you miss out on a lot of money! That box is not designed for your success. It’s designed to make you a good, polite cog in the machine.
Once you say f*ck that to your Professional Box, and truly start being yourself, things change in interesting ways.
The Quick Way to Become “You”
As you look around your workplace, remember: All these people are people too!
It’s a joke. As you’re walking around, keeping yourself to yourself and hiding behind your professional mask, everyone else around you is doing the same thing!
The moment you take the lead and starts connecting _face-to-face_ (rather than mask-to-mask), the people around you start following your lead. As I said, people are desperate for real connection.
Your co-workers all want to talk about their loves, their interests, and to connect with other people. Bring them out of their shell talking about your loves and interests.
Don’t think of them as co-workers that you _have_ to spend time with. Why not think of them as friends that you are lucky enough to spend 60% of your time with?
The Lucrative Business of Being Yourself
You would not believe how much work came my way because I started being open about my love for DC Comics.
Most people are so thrilled when they get to connect honestly with another human being that they are then more happy to give you a helping hand.
Start talking about what you love and you’ll be blown away by the amount of common ground you’ll discover with people.
I went to a mastermind a few weeks ago where I met Richard Tubb http://www.tubblog.co.uk/about-richard-tubb face-to-face for the first time. We sat down to a coffee and I discovered he was a massive comics guy too, and we ranted about Green Lantern for ages. We now have a solid friendship!
At Podcast Websites we’re getting European Regional Development Funding http://ec.europa.eu/regional_policy/en/funding/erdf. This means we can outsource some work and be compensated for half the cost. It’s a great program!
Steve, who worked with me on getting this funding, turned out to be into photography too! On our first meeting, I bought Steve a coffee, noticed he was using photography terms, and we spent the next 20 minutes talking photography. Then we spent 10 minutes filling out the paperwork to get the funding done. We now have a solid friendship!
That’s how you conduct a “business meeting” that’s fun and fosters genuine connection and the potential for lifelong friendships. Now, Steve and I go to the same camera club on Tuesday evenings.
Traditional thinking about professionalism would have told me that was the wrong place to bring up my hobby. Bullsh*t! If you don’t share and open up to people at work, you are leaving a heap of money on the table.
Colleagues vs Friends
People don’t want to work with “colleagues”.
People want to be part of a real community, a group that shares not only their desks but their lives.
They want real connection that feels stronger than a mere “alliance” (which is the best the Professional Box can give you).
For the rest of the week, try this: As you walk around your workplace, remind yourself that everyone you see is an individual full of opinions and interests and fears. See if you can coax some of that out by sharing something from your own life, instead of talking only work and weather.
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